By The Pricking Of My Thumbs

As Macbeth seeks counsel with the Three Wierd Sisters , the second witch, sensitises the audiance of his arrival with the memorable line, "By the pricking of my thumbs, something wicked this way comes." Of course by this point in the play , it has been established that the wicked thing is Macbeth himself, a traitor and murderer.

One wishes that one can similarly predict the arrival of dangerous liasons in one's virtual life.. My single friends are constantly complaining about the unfairness of fate...u just dont get the ones you want and the ones u dont ,.....well they ping, e-mail,and keep in touch with you constantly. And the only pricks you get show up in your phone bills..:)
It's a tough world out there for singletons. Across the gender lines there is but one Aersomith Song serenading the mob,' I let the wrong ones in and the right ones out.' Everyone's looking for someone and yet no one's getting 'any'....because the search is on.....virtually.....

The virtual world blossoms everyday with one more social networking site...which sends the whole singleton army into a Twitter....

Signings done, profiles are written up, status updates which seem suitably kule and blase are thought of.... The serious hunters rustle up their most enigmatic photoshop brushed pics ..which agian bear witness to how thoroughly and totally irrisistable they really are.....

In desperate times..we reach out to disparate measures..chat tooms, travel & similar interest communities, regressive matrimonial sites...anything and everything which bears a promise of freedom from being alone and yet wasn't it this sense of freedom and this need to be able to live one's life by one's own terms what we sought & and why we became singleton's in the first place?
It's all tangled, isn't it ? The strategy and the delivery?

So i guess..wanting to be a singleton is not just a life choice, it's not just the goodies and THERE ARE MANY!

a)You are free to be the Columbus of Mini Breaks.
b) You can actually spend a whole day in bed doing absolutely nothing.
c) You dont need to watch movies, read books , listen to music, seem interested in anything which u care two hoots about...
d)You can more or less make friends with Atilla The Hun or Jack The Ripper without being told to watch out!
e)You can spend as much as u want ,on your wardrobe, shoes OR on other completely superficial artifacts which give you intense pleasure and hedonistic high without feeling the slightest bit of remorse

But with singleton dom comes the lonely evenings, the silent house you leave behind every morning, the sudden pangs of wanting a hug in the middle of the day and of course the Lack of Structure of a life in which groceries, clean sheets, laundry, sunday afternoon smell of fried onions, flowers in the verandah, meat on the pot , and someone else's favourite song playing on the stereo all lend themselves to well rehearsed memory bytes of easy domesticity.

Net Net ....Get Off The Net ....and invest in real relationships. A lot of us , use the virtual saftey of the internet to protect ourselves from the vagaries of a real relationship. But hey, You are flesh and blood not an information byte..and you owe it to yourself not to spend another sunday afternoon looking at the second pillow on your bed and wondering who will ping, call , sms ,email u...while your actually in hiding...being a nowhere man in your nowhere land....